Got Preferences?
So there's been a lot of talk on 40s Singleness lately about dating preferences. First, I talked about my preference for taller men, then there was my list which added younger and athletic, and finally yesterday there was the yummy man's preference for white women.
The comments have been flying fast and furious and it feels like something that needs to be discussed. I mean we all have preferences. I prefer cats over dogs, tea over soda and chicken over pork. That doesn't mean I would never have a dog. Okay, I'd never have a dog. Bad example. But I do drink the occasional soda and have the occasional pork chop. I like soda, I just prefer tea. And there's nothing wrong with pork, I just prefer chicken.
It's the same in dating kids. I prefer younger men, but that doesn't mean I would dismiss someone out of hand just because they were older. Or short. Or not so athletic.
Now I've come under fire more than once for my younger men preference and we won't even talk about the whole Cougar/MILF bullshit. Wait a minute. Yes, we will. I am not hunting younger men. I am not out in the bars ready to pounce on them the minute they walk by and drag them back to my bed with my teeth. And any man who sees me and thinks they're going to bag a Cougar just to say they've bagged one will get hurt. Hard. Where it counts. 'Nuff said.
My point is that I am simply attracted to younger, tall, athletic men. Just the way Eathan is attracted to white women. Just the way some men are attracted to blondes, or some women are all about the geeks (who I hear are hella good catches by the way).
In a comment she left, Honey said "The BF is much shorter than I would normally like, but he's got so much else going for him and now I think he's the perfect height."
See? It doesn't mean we don't give anyone else the time of day or dismiss them because they don't exactly meet the picture in our head. Because really how silly is that? The truth of the matter is that no one is perfect which means that finding someone who meets all of our criteria, especially physically, may not happen. And that's okay. Because just like Honey, when it's the right person, you will think he's perfect anyway. That's what love goggles are all about.
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