Looking for an Epic Love
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Recently I received an email from a MySpace friend. He and I have been 'friends' for awhile, have exchanged emails, talked about meeting for coffee and have just never quite made it happen. Yet, he is definitely one of my favorite friends.
An email from him always makes me smile. The one I mentioned above really touched me. Because I value him so much, I won't reprint it, but he did ask some questions and make some observations that deserve consideration here.
He observed that people seem to fall in and out of love all the time and that he would love forever. And isn't that the truth? Have you noticed that some people always seem to be falling in and out of love and usually in record time?
They meet someone new and bam! they're in love...right up until they're not. Again, usually in record time.
Do we really know what love is? Or are we so into instant gratification that we just don't take the time to get to someone on a level where we can really fall in love with them?
My friend is looking for an epic love. His words. Think for a minute about that word...epic. According to dictionary.com epic means heroic; majestic; impressively great or of unusually great size or extent.
Thinking about it that way, isn't that what we're all looking for? An epic love to last a lifetime. How do we expect to find that after a few dates or in a few weeks? An epic takes time. And yet it is so worth the wait. It's the difference between a fly by night company that is here one day and gone the next and an established family business that has been around for centuries.
One is built on whims and promises never fulfilled; the other is solid and unshakable, built on a solid foundation obviously built to outlast the other. Which would you rather have?
I think sometimes, especially when we're dating in our 30s and 40s, we feel like we need to rush things in order to beat the clock. But really isn't it a case of quality over quantity?
I was talking to beautifuleldestdaughter the other day. I was excited because I had gotten this fortune in my fortune cookie: "Your love life will be happy and harmonious." She said maybe I'd meet a nice man in the retirement home pointing out there are lots of single men there.
The retirement home? Really? You think I'm going to have wait that long? Lord God! I don't want to wait that long!
But what if that's really where I'll find that epic love? Would a short amount of time be enough or would the incredible quality of that love be worth the wait?
Okay, maybe that's a huge exaggeration. The point is not to rush it. We really aren't running out of time. There's plenty left.
Slow down. Look for the love will last a lifetime. An epic love.
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